joel builds a "road" of chocolate cake directly on the table. he declined to use the plate when daddy "suggests" it. before the polite request even has a chance to become a command, joel turns to daddy with a compassionate look and says:
"daddy are you angry, are you sad, are you happy, are you tired?"
my rather post-modern response was "yes"
liz and tom catch each other's eye, consider together the realisation that those 4 emotions wonderfully capture the moment. we then ponder further and recognise that this interchange defines much of parenting.
"are you angry, are you sad, are you happy, are you tired?"